12 Step Progression to Orphan Heart
Orphan Spirit. This is a word that you have probably not heard of. What is it? Having an orphan heart is one where the person feels like they do not have a home with mother or father or with God. It’s a feeling or sensing that you just don’t belong. It’s a feeling that you don’t belong or have a home anywhere. You are afraid to trust, afraid to love, afraid of rejection and afraid to open up your heart to love someone or be love by people.
This is a hard place to live. People get to this place in their heart from wounding either as a child or young adult. You can be a Christian and have orphan thinking because you have not dealt with the pain in your heart and soul.
If your orphan heart is left unhealed or unresolved there are 12 steps can happen and manifest as a stronghold in your life and causing you much pain for years to come. But God wants you free.
Let me give you 12 steps to the progression into orphan thinking here:
- You focus on the faults you see in parental authority. You notice the faults of your parents when you were a child and how they misrepresented love. They disappointed you, broken promises and lies all look large in your eyes.
- You receive the faults of your parents even though they didn’t mean to misrepresent love of God.
- You lost basic trust in parental authority. Your wall goes up and basic trust in them is lost. You withdraw a part of yourself. You trust only in surface things but not matters of the heart or deep intimate issues.
- You move into a fear of receiving love, comfort and admonition from others. This is where it is difficult to receive from others because you are afraid to make yourself vulnerable. So when a crisis comes, and it will, you suck it up and do it yourself, because you believe no one will really be there for you.
- You develop a closed spirit. This is where you close your heart to receive love and intimacy with other people. You isolate you heart from outside influence from everyone but the most superficial and unhealthy emotional attachments.
- You take on an independent and self-reliant attitude. You only depend on you. Your heart says that if you want anything done you will do it yourself. You shut off from meaningful relationships.
- You start to control your relationships. The fear of trusting, fear of rejection and intimacy prevents you from going into deeper subjects with people and from allowing anyone to become more personal with you.
- Relationships become superficial. Healthy relationships are difficult and almost none existent. You keep people at arms length.
- You develop an ungodly belief that noone will be there for you in your time of need.
- You live life like a spiritual orphan. You believe you have no safe place with others or with God and that you have no real place of rest. You believe that you must fight, wrangle, and argue for what you want to accomplish in life. You begin to seek love in all the wrong places.
- You chase after counterfeit affections. You look for substitutes for the things and relationships you cut off.
- You now daily battle a stronghold of oppression. You are now caught in the trap or cycle of seeking fulfillment in things that can never satisfy.
God wants you free. He will restore the father heart to you. You will find a home with Father God and be secure in His love. Jesus came so that you can abide in Father love. You can and will experience this because of presence of Holy Spirit. There is a place for you and God will come and make His home in you. Don’t let this progression become your lifestyle. You will experience a change or shift as you have a different encounter with love. Why?
Because God is love. Selah.
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